Resist the urge to simply let your marriage unfold. There’s undeniable value in seeking the vision for your marriage from God and being intentional about creating an environment for it to be made manifest.
In the words of the Quayes “we have defaults and then we have decisions”. What are the internal and external influences that you are deciding or allowing to shape your marriage? If your influences aren’t making you better as a unit, you might want to consider taking a step back.
Our partner may be the one to point out that we aren't the best communicator but it’s up to us to endure one of the hardest parts of communication – listening to understand. Better communication, better marriage.